Posted on August 5th, 2011
I’m a mom. I have two kids. I even drive them to after-school activities, which quite possibly makes me a soccer mom.
I also have long hair, and wear designer jeans.
It’s interesting that women are often expected to, or maybe we expect it of ourselves, to adjust our fashion sense as we become moms. It’s as if we should forget about “me” and immerse ourselves in taking care of our kids, to the point that we don’t care anymore about fashion.
I’m here to tell you that you don’t need to do that. You can be a loving, caring, awesome mom, and wear designer jeans. You can pair those jeans with cute tops, have manicured nails, even wear heels once in a while (though admittedly heels at the playground are less than ideal).
Remember the hilarious SNL skit about Mom Jeans, where they say, “This Mother’s Day, give mom the gift that says, “I’m not a woman anymore. I’m a Mom!” – It was a hilarious skit, but it also made an important point. The very idea that one must choose between being a “woman” and being a “mom” is, to me, unacceptable.
This is not to say that it’s bad to make changes to your appearance as your role in life changes and as you get older. In my late thirties, I don’t wear miniskirts anymore – they just don’t feel right – and I also find myself gravitating away from tank tops and towards sleeved tees. But I still work out, eat well, stay fit, and care about fashion. I take great pleasure in dressing in flattering clothes, and I just don’t see myself “letting go” because of life events such as becoming a mom, growing older, or even becoming a grandma!
There’s nothing wrong with opting for comfort in addition to style. In fact, these days I refuse to suffer for beauty. But there’s a balance to strike, and that balance does not take me in the direction of wearing the notorious Mom Jeans.